Sunday, August 21, 2011

Happily Married Ever After?

New marriages are full of smiles, and filled with happy moments but as days pass by this blessed pleasant union becomes quite a "drag along", know why?


Allah most gracious says in the Holy Quran:

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect."(Holy Quran 30:21)
 
Then why does it often happen, that a newly married couple find absolute happiness in each others company, even the smallest and the most trivial of things brings a smile to their faces, and mistakes of either spouse however big is ignored, all this in the first few months of the marriage. As the marriage grows old....years pass by..the charm of the relation, the warmth of a glance vanishes somewhere.

How does one save one's marriage from losing this charm, and how does one bring about and maintain the magic in one's relationship?

It is just plain simple....there is only one thing that we all need to do to keep our marriages bright as ever always. And what is that? It is just that we need to respect our spouses for what they are and thank Allah for blessing us with their companionship. In the early days of the marriage, this respect is there and so is the love...but as days go by, the love though still there, is left alone unsupported by the respect that once accompanied it. We start taking our spouses for granted.

We Just need to learn to respect our spouses for what they are, and tell them so too. The expression of mutual feelings is as important as the existence of the feelings itself, at times it so happens that though the couple feel the love and respect for each other, but the lack of its expression to one another causes problems. We must realize that each (husband or wife) works hard in his or her own way to make living good and comfortable for the whole family, so why not just learn to appreciate this in each other?

There might be things that we dislike in each other, but we are supposed to overlook them and appreciate our spouses for what other good they have.

 Allah most High says in the Holy Quran:

"....If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good."(Holy Quran 4:19)

Well...a warm and loving word timely spoken does wonders to revive a relationship, honestly. We need to work hard to keep Allah's mercy shining on our relationships always.

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